There is an interesting analogy of fear that I like and that is:
F – False
E – Evidence
A – Appearing
R – Real
You see, most Internet Marketers imagine that they’re doing everything they can to succeed and yet often ask – “Why then am I not further along?”
“Where are my millions?”
If you feel this way too, then you’re probably a victim of ‘fear’ – of false evidence appearing real.
Fear stops you from doing many things:
– Taking risks
– Going for it NOW (not tomorrow)
– Worrying about investments/spending money
– Overriding your natural abilities
– Fear of not making enough money
– Fear of what people will think of you and your ‘virtual’ job
– Thinking it’s all a scam
– Worrying you are doing it ‘wrong’
– Having too many ideas as a back-up and, therefore, diluting your power in too many ventures
– Starting and not finishing
The list is endless. But it’s not real. It may feel real, but it isn’t. It is a future-based thought projection, and it is causing you to suffer and to, ultimately, hold you back.
You see, if you constantly picture it going wrong, worry about the future, keep changing your mind or venture and procrastinating – it’s all self-protection so that if it goes bottom up – you think you won’t feel so bad.
I am here to tell you if you want to get over this for good, you must pick an adventure online – hyper-focus on seeing it through to the end, forget about the ‘how,’ remember why you started, and disregard any thoughts of pain or failure that ‘might’ occur.
Why? Well, the difference between you and someone really successful in your field isn’t the system they are using. It is the mindset.
I guarantee you if it was the system, then everyone who bought the system thereafter would be rich. No, it is how you feel about it and what you are willing to do with it. Most of that process of success is inside of your head.
How can you make any system or process work for you? Don’t keep changing the idea – change you.
Simply put – stop being afraid of things that haven’t happened or that may happen or that have happened. Focus now on one or two good projects and STICK with it/them. See it/them through. Face the obstacles and tell your fear that you can do it and will do it no matter what. That is the only secret.
Why do we not like this word ‘failure’? Because the possibility of it (of letting ourselves down or others) causes us PAIN.
We are all afraid of pain and want to move away from it. That is how procrastination happens – you want to put the pain off for another time. It could be the pain of hard work, of talking to people if you are shy, of seeing yourself or of failing in your goals. But it is all nonsense caused by thought.
Pain is overrated. Why? Because again, FEAR is the main ingredient of all pain.
After that, it’s just the physical feeling, which can be managed.
That’s right. You can liken it to pulling out a loose tooth with a pair of pliers. Sounds barbaric, scary… however, how much do we dramatize the potential of pain in that scenario?
This is the same as fearing the future of your finances or overall success online.
But remember this…
Walking to get the pliers isn’t painful, lifting them isn’t painful, holding the tooth isn’t painful; wiggling the pliers and pulling – now that’s painful (the actual discomfort of doing it) – but for what, five seconds? Five seconds of pain.
And it’s over. Sure beats a week of panicking about the dentist.
It’s a strange analogy, but most of us live our whole lives making a whole day, week, or month out of pain when if we just lived in the moment without fear, it’s often just a five-second event.
If we just pick an idea, go for it and face fear – and just see it through!
Fear of failure is the element that keeps you down, with no hope of success on a massive scale. But there is no such thing as failure! Some of the greatest ‘failures,’ or lessons, as I call them, developed some of the most incredible inventions to date.
Failure is an exposure to what works and what doesn’t, and one can only reach success or failure when getting out of his/her safe or comfort zone. So if you are failing, you’re doing better than most… because while they’re sitting around, you have already gotten up and started making it happen!
Benjamin Franklin said:
“By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail.”
And Thomas Edison said the following:
“Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”
He added – “Everything comes to him who hustles while he waits.”
“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.”
And my favorite – “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
Like Edison and like any great out there now… there is only one key difference in their approach – they are not afraid to see their work to the end.
See it to the end, and you too will have success.
Do not be afraid anymore. Get to work, take massive and consistent action toward your dreams, and build your dream life NOW.